PRACTITIONER'S PERSPECTIVE: A Sociodynamio Technique: Heart Mates

Abstract

Heart Mates focuses on the physiological rhythm of the heart and its influence on interpersonal "dances" we create with others. We use it to illustrate in action, the process theory (Sabelli, 1989, 2005) principle that change and creativity emerge through the interaction of coexisting opposites. The exercise provides an opportunity for participants to explore their own process of cocreation and to examine the extent to which their actions influence and are influenced by internal physiological rhythms as well as the actions of others. It also introduces a new sociodynamic tool (Carlson-Sabelli, Sabelli, & Hale, 1994), the diamond of opposites (Carlson-Sabelli, Sabelli, Patel, & Holm, 1992) to enrich the report of experiences that involve conflict, ambivalence, opposition and contradiction.
Heart Mates provides a relatively nonthreatening way to examine aspects of one's own interpersonal style and to quantify and examine the impact of heart rhythm on interpersonal actions (see Figure 1). It brings up for discussion sociodynamic issues of connecting, separating, belonging and not fitting in, opposing and cooperating, sabotaging, and collaborating. As our case example illustrates, it may also serve as a warm-up for personal psychodrama.